Suprise! We’re Pregnant

Yes, you read the title correctly. My husband and I are pregnant! It is such an exciting time for us. I thought about waiting ’till I was in my third trimester to announce, but I read something in one of my pregnancy groups that really struck a chord with me, and I felt like sharing it in a blog post for those who may need to hear this too.

Trigger warning: I will talk about my previous loss and miscarriage, so if that topic is triggering to you, I suggest clicking out of this blog post and reading a light-hearted one that is happy throughout, such as my post, You Have To See This Cabin in Sevierville, TN where I showcase an amazing cabin you and your family can stay in and all it has to offer. Not saying this blog post isn’t a happy one because it most certainly is, but I understand some may not want to read about child loss, and that is okay.

How Did I Find Out?

So, I found out at like five weeks. I could feel something was up and asked friends on messenger if they had seen a line (this was before my missed period), but I could feel something was off. My chest was so sore, and I was getting tired throughout the day. There was no line, so I chalked it up to being “crazy.” Then a few weeks later, I missed my menstrual cycle and asked my mom to bring me a test, and sure enough, after taking a cheap test from Save-A-Lot and a Clear Blue test, I was positive on both! It was a shock, and I could not believe it. But I was so excited.

How Many Weeks Am I?

I am currently nine weeks and three days. Many of my close friends and family told me to wait to announce it, but I couldn’t hold it in any longer. I was going to wait; however, I read in my pregnancy group that “there is no right time to announce” I was told to wait until I was in the “safe zone,” but there is no safe zone.

I previously miscarried at approx 6-7 weeks back in February 2018, and it was so rough for me. I was told I could possibly never carry a few years before then, and they even confirmed I had an undergown and tilted uterus; however, these days, the doctors haven’t spoken much about it, ad obviously, I beat the odds of what I was told and am currently carrying a miracle. I was so afraid to announce this pregnancy due to my previous loss, but then I read more about miscarriages – and people will say, “oh, they’re common,” but I feel that is so tone deaf. Read the room when someone is opening up about their pregnancy loss. Any pregnancy loss is a child loss, and it is a sad occurrence, and it does not matter if it is “common” that it was still a baby that the couple or mother wanted. I always found it distasteful when women bring up the commonality of it. Just say you’re sorry for their loss and keep going if it makes you uncomfortable or if you feel the need to diminish their situation. Downplaying someone’s miscarriage is also on the same level as “You’re announcing way too early. Wait until after 12 weeks” – I feel this way, especially now because it takes the joy from expecting moms who may already have so many fears about losing the baby they are currently carrying. Pregnant women are already struggling and are already worrying too much, and there really is no need to say those things and to judge when someone announces.

The post in this group said, “There is no safe zone to announce a pregnancy. A mother can lose their baby at any moment during the whole pregnancy and even after. So if someone wants to announce at five weeks, eight weeks, or even three weeks, let them. Do not steal their joy.” – and it has resonated with me and stayed with me since. This is why we chose to announce at nine weeks.

Will This Change Anything For My Blog?

The quick answer is no. I will still keep up with my blog, but this does open up more opportunities for me to track my pregnancy and do some mommy blog stuff when the baby gets here! I don’t plan to change my niche to “mommy blog,” but I will be springling mommy topics in for Kentucky moms here and there. My blog will still focus on living my Kentucky lifestyle and all the fun things Kentucky and Tennessee have to offer. And I truly hope you stick around!

How Do I Feel Overall?

Overall, I am excited. I am nervous. I am happy. I feel so many emotions right now and partially, they prompted me to (probably over-) share in this blog post. I wanted to get some things off my chest while sharing the big news with all of my subscribers and anyone else who may be expecting. I am nervous about parenthood but also excited to bring a little one into this crazy world. I also feel Kentucky is one of the best places to raise a child so, we already have one thing good going for them!