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Should We Keep Calling it “Bikini Season”?

Hearing the words, “bikini season” tends to give millions of women anxiety about the way they look. So of course during this time frame of “getting ready for Summer” the media and companies who sell diet pills and programs prey on said women and it needs to stop. A lot of activists say we should stop calling it bikini season and just refer to it as what it is, Summer.

I’m going to be honest, instead of changing everything and telling people what they can call it or whatever why just help boost our confidence instead? So many people with almost every situation and idea want to address issues and treat the symptoms rather than the causes. For example: Katia (made up person) is upset about her body and thinks they should stop calling it bikini season and just say Summer so she doesn’t have to worry about wearing a bikini or her feel insecure about her body. Laura (another made up person) comes over and replies to Katia saying that instead of focusing on the media and what people are wanting to call it or refer to it as, let’s help build your confidence instead so you don’t have those feelings towards a phrase or your body. Your body is a temple, and it should be loved by you. Katia thinks on it, and agrees! Now when it comes to all the diets and propaganda surrounding them in the media, turn it off! Shut it out! Cause I am here to tell you that all of that is a waste. You don’t need to be on a strict diet nor do you need to use pills to lose weight just to “get ready for Summer”. You need to go deeper and simply start loving yourself more. Eat healthier, recite affirmations and truly love yourself. That is what will give you the confidence you need to wear that bikini or any swimsuit you desire for that matter!

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How To Be Confident In Your Skin This Summer

Now that I have your attention I really want you to know that I am here for you and I understand one hundred percent how it feels to look at your body in disgust. I used to loathe and I mean LOATHE my body in a bikini, it got to the point where I started wearing one pieces because I was so insecure with the way my stomach looked. I’m not telling you it will be easy, because it did take some time for me. But I’m sure if you start now, you will begin to love your body by Summer.

Here Is What I Did And Still Do

My everyday self-love routine consists of having at least 8 hours of sleep, the better you feel, the more confident in the day you will be! I also recite affirmations when I wake up. You can find affirmations anywhere really, Pinterest, Google… You can even write your own which is what I do sometimes. If you have trouble finding any every morning on my Instagram I share one to my stories! So don’t fret, I got you covered (LOL). Affirmations have helped me so much with everything I have struggled with including my depression and my body image. A ton of people have asked me, “how do affirmations work?” well, you simply speak them into existence. The more you repeat something or recite a phrase, the more it gets locked into your memory, and after time you start to believe it and it is true. It works for some so if it doesn’t work for you, maybe something else I do will. After I do affirmations I then look at my planner. In my planner I also have things written out such as, “don’t forget to love your body today” or “be sure to eat something nutritious today to fuel your beautiful body” these have helped me so much in remembering to take care of myself. And the better you take care of yourself, the more you will love and value yourself. I also have notes like these on post-it notes spread about the house, on my full body length mirror, the bathroom mirror, etc. Other people use inspiring bible quotes so if you’re a Christian or someone who follows the bible use quotes from it that will help you! When it comes to diet, DO NOT FALL FOR THE ADS AND DIET PILLS YADA YADA. Diet pills don’t work unless you actually out in work along side them. Instead, just simply change your habits and lifestyle. Instead of mac and cheese and corn on the side for dinner, eat some seasoned asparagus or veggies and add another nutritious side to go with that! Fueling your body with proper nutrition will really help you feel better about your body! Don’t skip breakfast! I never skip breakfast even if it is just a piece of toast or Activia yogurt. You should at least try to eat something that can help fuel you for the day! Next I will do exercises, in the warm months I like to walk my dog around the block. Get some kind of exercise in during the morning! or if you have a busy work schedule fit it in when you get home! You will gradually build muscle and you’ll start to feel so much more confident in your beautiful body. REMEMBER: Muscle weighs more than ‘fat’ so I suggest not even looking at the scale. As someone recovering from an Eating Disorder (EDNOS), the scale is not your friend when you’re wanting to love yourself. Working out and eating healthy will be enough (my nutritionist/therapist agrees) to help you feel better about yourself, you do not need the number! Also, losing weight is not necessary to love yourself and you should never make that your main focus in life unless your doctor has placed that goal on you or you yourself wants to lose weight. But I would do all that instead of taking fake diet pills with false hope. Know what I mean? During the day I like to remind myself my worth. So again I will look at affirmations sometimes, or just tell myself positive things about me. At some point during my day I will do something that I love, a hobby perhaps. I like to read, write, sing, and sometimes organize something. So I suggest taking an hour each day to do something you enjoy doing! And if you’ve been under the weather and your usual hobbies don’t interest you, learn something new! Before I take my nightly or morning showers I always look at myself in the mirror and I give myself at least 1 compliment each time. Start with your beautiful eyes, your gorgeous figure, your hair. Say something nice to yourself! I know it is hard but eventually it will get easier! Before bed I like to journal. So what I do is well… journal! I will write a response to whatever the prompt is (I make my own prompts or get them off Pinterest). After that, I will write down one good thing about myself and my body. For example, “I really love how I have grown as a person. I also really appreciate my jaw line.” You should also try journaling!

I know I have probably repeated myself a lot with some of the things I suggested but loving your body goas along with loving yourself! So of course if you read my self love blogs you may have noticed and already seen some of the same advice. Have you tried any of it? Let me know below (comment) and tell me if it had helped or not so I can better assist you in loving yourself! Anyhow, that is what I did to start loving my body and it has also helped me in my recovery from an ED. It has helped me so much so I am hoping these ideas will help you as well. Let’s recap!

  • Get At Least 8 Hours of Sleep Each Night
  • Recite Affirmations
  • Use a Planner – Write Down Little Notes To Yourself and Your Body
  • Spread Positive Notes About Yourself and Your Body All Over the House! Especially on Mirrors
  • Eat and Live Healthier
  • Don’t Skip Breakfast
  • Take Walks/Be Proactive
  • Tell Yourself How Much You Love You
  • Take 1 Hour To Do Something You Love or Try Something New
  • Compliment Something About Your Body While Standing In Front of a Mirror
  • Journal – Write One Thing You Love About Yourself and One Thing You Love About Your Body

Try those things and maybe just maybe… Summer won’t intimidate you as much as it has in the past. Thank you for reading and don’t forget that you are beautiful and deserve all the love this world has to offer.

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It Is Time For You To Put Yourself First

We have talked about how you can let go of the past and all that is holding you back, we’ve went over ways you can get over your fears and so much more. Now it is time to start putting yourself first! In this read, I will share ways that has helped me personally as well as others including my closet friends. By the end of this post you will be ready to finally start putting yourself first and hopefully without any guilt whatsoever.

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First, let’s talk about WHY you need to start putting yourself first. For one, you’re probably exhausted right now and you NEED to REST! Second, it is a form of self love that everyone needs to practice! Third but not last, It helps us live a healthier life. Your physical an mental (possibly even spiritual) health depends on you practicing forms of self love… which include, putting yourself first! Now, we all heard about Jessie Gallan, the 109 year old woman who said her secret to living a long life was to avoid men! Now this could just be her adding humor and wanting to make people laugh but I think she was serious! Maybe avoiding men and being a strong independent woman was her way of putting herself first. Everyone puts themselves first in all kinds of ways. So to sum this up we can for sure interpret that her answer was, “self-love”.

Now let’s get to the ways we can put ourselves first:

  • Take care of your body – Take regular bubble baths or Epsom salt baths to help relieve tension and soreness in your body and be sure to moisturize all over after you get out of the shower. I like to take baths, relax, then shower and moisturize. It helps a ton! Also know when to quit, put your physical body first. Don’t forget to wash your hair and use a nice hair mask and face mask while bathing! Foot creams are also nice, especially if you’re on your feet all the time.
  • Write down your priorities – list things you will put first on your list to help you put yourself first.
  • Make sure to keep a balance between helping others and helping yourself to needs and wants – to help you balance simply create a T chart or go with the flow and remember there needs to be a balance. Balancing helps you put yourself first while allowing yourself to help others when they need it. Helpful when you have children or a significant other.
  • Make time for sleep – sleep purposely and plan to get 9 hours of sleep each week night. I say plan because I know there are women (maybe even men) reading this that have babies. Plan to get 9. Psychologists recommend 7-9 hours of sleep with 9 hours being the best you can aim for since there is a thing called REM (which you can look up, it is a big deal though when it come to sleeping in 3 hour increments).
  • Take care of your mind – Unfollow and unfriend toxicity and allow yourself to turn off the electronics once in a while. Resist lurking people’s profiles that tend to upset you and resist the urge to read the comment section of your local news stations on Facebook. Better your life in these ways and I promise affirmations will help you think in a more positive light.
  • Start saying “no” – saying no when that is what you want or need to say will literally change your life. I promise you.
  • Know when to ask for help – put your pride aside and understand that sometimes we need a little help. Like, if you’re exhausted and have a lot of chores and the baby won’t stop crying — call for help. Don’t feel ashamed. If you’re overwhelmed with studying, ask for help so you can understand or take initiative and ask to copy notes if you had to take a rest day from school (college). Know when to ask for help, and don’t feel ashamed.
  • Know that you’re important, but don’t overdue yourself – You are important! People need you and some rely on you, however, don’t let that take over your life. Make some time for you. Create windows for when you will allow yourself to help others and create windows where you give time to only you.
  • Eat Healthier – Keeping in mind what you put into your body will help you in so many ways. Your body will thank you.

Now keep in mind, once you start putting yourself first you will feel guilty, as it is new to you and you are figuring out the balance. Remind yourself why you need to put yourself first and that it is okay to feel guilty but you don’t have to feel guilty. You may have feelings where you feel selfish, shake those ideas out of your head because practicing the ways to put yourself first I gave you are anything but selfish! Most of those things are necessities!

If you feel that people will judge you or they’re thinking bad of you because you’re putting yourself you must let go of those thoughts and if they come at you in negative ways they are toxic, you may need to cut them off, or simply let them know why and ENCOURAGE THEM to put themselves first too.

If you decide to use those methods or to put this whole blog post to use in your life, please let me know. Leave a comment if there was something I missed that you personally do and subscribe to this blog for more posts like this! And follow me on Instagram for more inspiration where I post affirmations everyday on my stories and a lot of self love content. Feel free to even shoot me a DM, let’s conversate! All conversations stay confidential unless you give me permission to share. I will never ask to share though, it is purely if you want me to. I hope you have a blessed day and keep slaying! Instagram is @lifewithcaitie.

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How To Let Go Of What You’re Holding Onto

Letting go is something hard to do sometimes I know this from experience after experience. I have lost connections with good friends of my past, I have had to let go of situations that have caused me trauma even at a young age. I have tried to suppress anger, guilt, sadness only for it to go south and never leave – to be forever engraved into my skull. (I get poetic sometimes, sorry if that was too dark!)

There are so many people in this world that have felt what I felt, or feel what I feel which is why it was important for me to start this series on selfcare and selflove as well as body positivity. I don’t want to get too much into my story this early on in the series as well as since I created this blog for all of us! I want to help, not sulk or make this about me. This is about all of us who have felt these negative emotions and gone through tough situations. Read ahead to learn the best tips on how we can let go of this weight we carry on our shoulders that do in fact, affect the way we live day after day. It is time for us to let go and live as our best selves!

Distance Yourself!

I know many people tell you to do this, listen to them. It really does help when you distance yourself from things that no longer serve you for the good. Whether it be people, a thought, a situation, etc. It is time to put a wall between you and that said item.

Don’t Focus on the Outcomes!

Don’t get yourself invested and obsessive over what is going to happen. This just causes unnecessary stress that you really don’t need at the moment. Instead, have faith. Have faith in yourself knowing that whatever happens, it will only result in you getting stronger and more self-aware. When you trade fear for faith it tends to really help build your confidence and mind in positive ways. This is a part of self-growth individuals deserve to recognize.

Talk About It!

Everyone dreads talking about their feelings for so many irrelevant reasons. We think we are a burden or a “Debbie-downer” however, none of those are the case! Talking about the way we feel should NOT make someone uncomfortable if they are a real friend or a good family member. We also can always contact professional help to listen to us too. Don’t feel ashamed, every single person on this planet has something going on in their lives. Talking about your feelings will help you. Don’t you even think about being “edgy” and push your emotions away to avoid talking about it. Maybe if it is really hard for you to talk about your feelings, invest in a journal! I journal all the time and it really does help me tons.

Let Go of the Idea That You Can Control the Situation!

Let go of the idea that you can control people or the situation. You do however, have control over yourself; keep composure and analyze what is exactly going on. Will this situation serve you no matter the outcome? Now is the time to make decisions for yourself so don’t stress about others or the situation itself. You can remove yourself from the equation altogether if that is also what you want.

Stop Blaming Yourself!

Stop blaming yourself and others (depending on situation). Something I tell everyone including myself is that if you continue to blame yourself (or others), you will never get over the situation no matter what other tips or pieces of advice you follow. You must take one breath in, and out. Realize that it is over now and you are in complete control about what you do with that realization. Stop blaming yourself for starters.

Accept What Has Happened!

Once something is over with it, this kind of goes hand in hand with the fact you need to stop blaming yourself. Accept what happened and think of ways you can move on. Simple as that! Following all these other tips can also help you accept what happened.

Forgive!!!

Another tip that goes hand in hand with how you need to stop blaming! You must forgive that person or yourself so you can fully let go of this situation. I know how hard it is to forgive others, it can be so so hard. But we must not forget our worth and how people do have the chance to change. Even if they can change – if you don’t want to see them again, you can still forgive them.

Practice Being in the Present!

Practice being in the present and aware of what is going on right this second. This will help you keep going after you finally have let go what you were holding onto. Practice not only being in the present for your emotions but practice for yourself. Being in the present is a beautiful thing. Focus on living life right now. It is time for us to quit sobbing over the past. We cannot change what has happened/occurred in our past, but we can change what happens in our future (depending on what it is of course). Don’t even bother worrying about the future either! Live in the now.

Focus On Yourself!

After all is said and done… FOCUS ON YOURSELF! We need to start focusing on ourselves now, our own lives. Do what is best for you and not for others (unless of course your kids are involved).

Engage in Selfcare & Selflove

Finally, engage in some selfcare activities. Start journaling (I have great February Journal Prompts for you to use over on my Instagram just click here!), start doing things you love or enjoy, start putting yourself first… start living for you and not them!!! Selfcare is one of the best practices in the world – and most of the time, free!

Follow me on Instagram so you can stay up to date with this series. I also have so much more going on in my stories on this subject, go have a look! Read some captions, and start loving yourself now! Happy February! New blogs every Friday this month, so subscribe to the blog for more! Thank you for reading! ❤

Halloween Healthy at Home Ideas

This is the guide for all of those who wish to stay home and healthy while still celebrating Halloween whether it be with your friends, family and/or kiddos!

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I know during COVID how crazy some of us are going since trick-o-treating has been frowned upon/cancelled/not suggested. Jessamine Co. Kentucky cancelled their ‘Treats on Main’, however, kept the door-to-door festivities going. Legally they cannot cancel or make it illegal to still go trick-o-treating though, I know some of us do not want to risk it and practice the unofficial Holiday at home. Well this is the ultimate guide for you if that pertains to you! Even if you plan on going door-to-door, these are some activities everyone can do and enjoy! At the end I will also share tips on passing out candy during this Holiday intertwined with the pandemic.

TOP 10 Healthy at Home Halloween Celebration Ideas:

1) Carve Some Pumpkins!

Pumpkin Carving kits are easy to find, I got mine at Kroger but of course you can just use simple materials such as a knife and a big spoon to help you get the pumpkin’s insides scooped out to carve! I absolutely adore this activity because it isn’t just fun as children; I still enjoy pumpkin carving like I did as a young child!

2) Exchange “Boo” Boxes with Others!

This one is a fun one! So I am in many Facebook groups and just so happen to also be apart of a Fall & Halloween lovers group as well as the many other groups I am in. So I did not come up with this myself, I found this idea on said group! Someone wrote something on the lines of, “I am looking for a boo box buddy/pen pal who would like to ship each other a box containing Fall and Halloween goodies!”, I definitely took them up on their offer. I ended up sending 5 total boo boxes. Overall this was so fun and I recommend others to do it if they also enjoy this season!

3) Dress Up Anyway at Home!

Me in my Witchy Halloween outfit | Shop this Look, it is on my (this) website under Blogs

Dress up anyway! Halloween is too fun and life is too short to miss out on dressing up! I have heard from some people they aren’t dressing up this year but why? For many years dressing up for Halloween has been a tradition (for many) and it has also been used as self expression. People often express themselves dressing up by dressing as their idols, career paths, their favourite characters from books and movies, and etc. One of my favourite costume expressions are those from different eras though, some misinterpret the era they were going for. So don’t skip this year, dressing up is too fun to skip!

4) Bake & Decorate!

Hocus Pocus Buns (Easy | 20 min)

Ingredients:

  • Pillsbury Croissant Dough
  • Jumbo Marshmallows
  • Ground Cinnamon
  • Sugar
  • Butter

How to Make: Roll the dough in a ball, then rip a spot to shove the marshmallow in (LOL), close the dough and make into a finer ball. Dip in melted butter, then dip in sugar, then roll it around in the cinnamon as long as you want then place on a cookie sheet. Takes about 10 minutes max to bake. They call them hocus pocus buns because the marshmallow disappears! This is a tasty and inexpensive treat to make! 11/10 recommend.

Easy Cupcakes (EASY | 35 min.)

Ingredients:

  • Cupcake Mix
  • Vanilla Extract
  • Frosting
  • Sprinkles
  • Edible Decoration you Bought from Kroger/Walmart
  • Cupcake Cups
  • Cupcake Baking Pan

How to create: Mix the cake mix with what you need to (directions should be on back of the box) then add some Vanilla Extract to make it taste a little more homemade. I usually put a pinch of the extract in mine. Then mix again. Now, pour the cake into the cups in the cupcake pan. Now bake for approx. 17-21 minutes unless done before then. Take them out of the oven, let cool for about 25 min. Add the frosting to the cupcakes once cooled. then sprinkle some Halloween-ish sprinkles. Then add a cute Halloween edible decoration on top and begin to serve!

Yeah, my recipes are kind of satire, but let’s be honest, I am not a cook or a baker. I figured I would give you all some easy ones that I have done myself! Now the Hocus Pocus Buns, they are actually sooooo good.

5) Host a Halloween Treasure Hunt with the Kiddos

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This would be so fun for kiddos! You know how on Easter they look for eggs and they have candy in them? Do it for Halloween! Make up your own rules! Hide the candy in pumpkin like eggs, make them find a “special” painted pumpkin for money or whatnot! You can have an indoor treasure hunt or do it outside! This is guaranteed fun while being healthy at home!

Other Things you Could Do:

  • Watch Movies and enjoy candy & popcorn!
  • Host a small 10 person Halloween party!
  • Have a Virtual Costume Contest!
  • Host a Halloween Watch Party on Facebook!

If you have any other ideas please leave a comment! Also don’t forget to subscribe to the blog for more seasonal ideas and posts! Make sure you’re following me on Instagram (@lifewithcaitie), thanks so much for reading!

How To Love Yourself Completely

I recently have just begun to understand myself more and am falling in love with my self more and more every day. Yeah I guess that sounds kind of self-centered or absorbed, but loving yourself isn’t of that nature. Genuinely loving yourself, is a gift to yourself, the best gift you can ever give yourself. Putting yourself first, or treating yourself like a queen/king doesn’t make you, “self-centered” or “absorbed” and we need to stress that more in this generation and life in general as well. Repeat after me, “LOVING YOURSELF ISN’T A SIN, NOR IS IT VANITY” or if you prefer me not to be so ‘religious’ then repeat this line instead, “LOVING YOURSELF DOESN’T MAKE YOU SELF CENTERED” in fact, it makes us brighter human beings, with a more positive outlook on our lives.

As you read through this blog and the steps to loving yourself ‘completely’, keep in mind this may or may not work for you, but if it does you can find more content like this on my Instagram @lifewithcaitie or simply subscribe to my blog below or click the about me tab and find the subscribe form there. If you need to contact me, go to that tab and fill out the form. Please feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, or simply if you need an ear to vent to. I hope you receive great value from this blog, enjoy.

Steps to loving ones’ self:

I recently found a website that basically stated that loving yourself comes in 4 steps. At first, I felt that was super silly, but after taking it personally and literally I found that that statement is almost true. At least, it is definitely true to me.

Step One

Step one consists of treating yourself as if you were your spouse or someone you cared about. It is putting yourself and your needs first, and treating yourself how you should.

What you should do in this step:

  • Set Boundaries. Set some boundaries! Remove anything and ALL THINGS TOXIC in your life whether it be people, activities, or habits you may have. For example, this could simply be you removing friends from you friends list that are not adding any positive influence in your life, or quitting smoking. I had to block some people on Facebook and Instagram, and let me tell ya… one of the BEST THINGS I’ve ever done.
  • Prioritize sleep! Even I cannot stress this enough! Your body cannot function correctly if you do not have enough sleep! Please plan on 8-9 hours of sleep each night. What I have been doing is I have been going to bed at 9, sleeping at 10, and waking up at around 7 or 8 o’clock during the week. I do realize a lot of us have nine-to-five’s and need to be up and ready by 7, well, simply go to sleep around 9, and you can wake up at around 5 or 6 am instead, that should give you 8 to 9 hours of sleep. But look, even if you cannot set a good sleep schedule, at least sleep in a little on the weekends, and go to bed early if your’e a morning person. Night owls, maybe try working later, and sleeping later if that makes sense? Either way, make sleep a priority! Your body will thank you.
  • Meditate or Exercise! I have met people that are basically on their feet all day, so they tell me that they choose to meditate throughout the day, and more often than they choose to exercise. I prefer to exercise, but you should do what you feel you should. Honestly, my advice would be to set aside time for both. I am not good at meditating whatsoever, so I kind of keep a balance between both, but I definitely lean more towards exercise!
  • Eat healthy. Eating healthy is definitely something everyone should do, or practice. I am not saying you should cut out all the sugar in the world and become vegan or anything extreme, I just advise people to have a balanced diet/meal plan. I try to incorporate almost all food groups in each meal. Here is an example of my meal plan: Breakfast – One Meat, Eggs, and Fruit with Milk. Lunch- One Meat, Veggie, Fruit, and a choice between a Bread item or Yogurt. Dinner- One Meat, Veggie/Fruit, and a choice between a Starch or Bread Item. I normally don’t drink soda, however, when I do, I choose a diet or a zero calorie soda such as Coca-cola Zero or Diet Coco-cola. I have had so many people tell me that it is bad for you but a nutritionist I met said they are claims, not proven 100% fact. I do agree though, try if you can to stay away from aspartame and artificial sweeteners.
  • Express Gratitude often. Start and keep a gratitude journal, or simply add that part into your journal! I usually take about 10 minutes and use my mental health journal (if you would like a blog post about how to start and what goes in a mental health journal let me know) to write down 3 to five things I am grateful for each night. Others choose to do theirs in the morning, but I prefer night because I actually remember to do it. Another way to express gratitude would be to let people in your life know you are thankful for them!
  • Have Fun! Sometimes, adults just want to have fun (also including young adults)! Make a play date with one of your best friends or you significant other and go have fun! I’m sure you can find quite a bit of fun places to go to in or surrounding your city! For me (in Lexington Ky) there is an indoor trampoline park (on Brannon Crossing) and I love unwinding and relieving all my stress there with my friends!

Step Two

Step two consists of you realizing that we are human. You are human. And humans have their flaws that we need to recognize and sometimes even, embrace.

What you should do in this step:

  • Forgive Yourself. Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you have made. I had to learn this one the hard way. Sometimes, we all do. Darling, just forgive yourself, even if no one else can. You deserve forgiveness no matter what.
  • Let Go of Grudges! It is time to move on! You owe it to yourself to let go of things that are no longer relevant. I recently had just let go of a grudge I was holding against one of my family member’s ‘spouse’ and it honestly was such a wholesome feeling. Not only do I get to see ‘my little baby’ but now I can have conversations with her like a civil adult without dread.
  • Remember that you are Human. Humans can be pretty messed up from time to time. Sometimes we have messed up thoughts, or we have messed up actions. Good thing is we can always be the bigger person and refrain, or apologize for our actions.

Step Three

Step three consists of you going through a time machine back into your childhood or past in general. You will definitely discover a few things, and understand.

What to do in this step:

  • Just think about you life so far and what you can do to keep going.

Step Four

Step four consists of self-acceptance.

What you should do in this step:

  • Embrace all you have to Offer! If you have a talent, share is in a positive way! My talent is writing, and singing. Often times I will either sing at my home church or I will come on here and write blogs for you guys! I am choosing to use my talent to serve others, and that is why I truly believe the universe gifts us with the talents we pick up.
  • Share your Story! Do you have a ‘story’? Something you can share with the world, or perhaps even help others by sharing? In 2017 I released a very personal article which you can view by clicking: here. The article is my #MeToo story, and it talks about the abuse and the rape encounter that happened to me in my abusive relationship and how I dealt with it. I am also currently working on a book about my story as well to keep up with that subscribe to my blog and follow my Instagram.The point is, if you want to heal, and if you feel up to it, sharing your story can help millions. I highly suggest it. You can create a free account on Vocal which is a website where you can write articles and poems, etc. You can also get paid depending on the views you get per article!
  • Keep Going… Loving yourself completely, may or may not ever be achieved, however, it is possible. It is a process, and will take time. Just keep going.

Before you go…

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Oh, and if you are not a girl, I apologize (:

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