Letting go is something hard to do sometimes I know this from experience after experience. I have lost connections with good friends of my past, I have had to let go of situations that have caused me trauma even at a young age. I have tried to suppress anger, guilt, sadness only for it to go south and never leave – to be forever engraved into my skull. (I get poetic sometimes, sorry if that was too dark!)
There are so many people in this world that have felt what I felt, or feel what I feel which is why it was important for me to start this series on selfcare and selflove as well as body positivity. I don’t want to get too much into my story this early on in the series as well as since I created this blog for all of us! I want to help, not sulk or make this about me. This is about all of us who have felt these negative emotions and gone through tough situations. Read ahead to learn the best tips on how we can let go of this weight we carry on our shoulders that do in fact, affect the way we live day after day. It is time for us to let go and live as our best selves!
I know many people tell you to do this, listen to them. It really does help when you distance yourself from things that no longer serve you for the good. Whether it be people, a thought, a situation, etc. It is time to put a wall between you and that said item.
Don’t Focus on the Outcomes!
Don’t get yourself invested and obsessive over what is going to happen. This just causes unnecessary stress that you really don’t need at the moment. Instead, have faith. Have faith in yourself knowing that whatever happens, it will only result in you getting stronger and more self-aware. When you trade fear for faith it tends to really help build your confidence and mind in positive ways. This is a part of self-growth individuals deserve to recognize.
Talk About It!
Everyone dreads talking about their feelings for so many irrelevant reasons. We think we are a burden or a “Debbie-downer” however, none of those are the case! Talking about the way we feel should NOT make someone uncomfortable if they are a real friend or a good family member. We also can always contact professional help to listen to us too. Don’t feel ashamed, every single person on this planet has something going on in their lives. Talking about your feelings will help you. Don’t you even think about being “edgy” and push your emotions away to avoid talking about it. Maybe if it is really hard for you to talk about your feelings, invest in a journal! I journal all the time and it really does help me tons.
Let Go of the Idea That You Can Control the Situation!
Let go of the idea that you can control people or the situation. You do however, have control over yourself; keep composure and analyze what is exactly going on. Will this situation serve you no matter the outcome? Now is the time to make decisions for yourself so don’t stress about others or the situation itself. You can remove yourself from the equation altogether if that is also what you want.
Stop Blaming Yourself!
Stop blaming yourself and others (depending on situation). Something I tell everyone including myself is that if you continue to blame yourself (or others), you will never get over the situation no matter what other tips or pieces of advice you follow. You must take one breath in, and out. Realize that it is over now and you are in complete control about what you do with that realization. Stop blaming yourself for starters.
Accept What Has Happened!
Once something is over with it, this kind of goes hand in hand with the fact you need to stop blaming yourself. Accept what happened and think of ways you can move on. Simple as that! Following all these other tips can also help you accept what happened.
Another tip that goes hand in hand with how you need to stop blaming! You must forgive that person or yourself so you can fully let go of this situation. I know how hard it is to forgive others, it can be so so hard. But we must not forget our worth and how people do have the chance to change. Even if they can change – if you don’t want to see them again, you can still forgive them.
Practice Being in the Present!
Practice being in the present and aware of what is going on right this second. This will help you keep going after you finally have let go what you were holding onto. Practice not only being in the present for your emotions but practice for yourself. Being in the present is a beautiful thing. Focus on living life right now. It is time for us to quit sobbing over the past. We cannot change what has happened/occurred in our past, but we can change what happens in our future (depending on what it is of course). Don’t even bother worrying about the future either! Live in the now.
Focus On Yourself!
After all is said and done… FOCUS ON YOURSELF! We need to start focusing on ourselves now, our own lives. Do what is best for you and not for others (unless of course your kids are involved).
Engage in Selfcare & Selflove
Finally, engage in some selfcare activities. Start journaling (I have great February Journal Prompts for you to use over on my Instagram just click here!), start doing things you love or enjoy, start putting yourself first… start living for you and not them!!! Selfcare is one of the best practices in the world – and most of the time, free!
Follow me on Instagram so you can stay up to date with this series. I also have so much more going on in my stories on this subject, go have a look! Read some captions, and start loving yourself now! Happy February! New blogs every Friday this month, so subscribe to the blog for more! Thank you for reading! ❤